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It feels, doesn’t it, that in fact the very freedom I’m speaking to you of here is either at odds with your child’s need for autonomy and freedom OR your freedom is squashed and stifled in order for you to lovingly meet their needs as I know you so wish to.
#PDA #PathologicalDemandAvoidance #Autism #Autistic
Trust me, we put waaay to much pressure on ourselves!
We don’t need anymore Thank-You!
We come across goldmines like Facebook groups with other PDA parents in, and ‘The PDA Society’ website and we start to realise we are not alone and there is no blame here! Phew!
That’s a massive relief and we set about finding out all the best ways to finally give our child the best of support and we, as advised by the experts, make adjustments to their environment. We see massive changes and all seems to finally be coming together. We start to see the light shine through.
It’s plain to see as a parent we just need someone to listen to us and our children, to take some time, and to work with us to bring some relief.
However we don’t fit the ‘system’ and on time goes with the same...
‘You must come to us’
‘You must fit our schedule’
‘Your child must do as we say’
...approach, until everyone is too tired and in too much pain to know where to turn next.
As a society how has it come to such a lack of personal connection and compassion within the system we all call ‘care’?
However, the movement we truly want, the relief, the deep breath out, comes from a very different space.
It comes from a heart space that we can’t connect with when we are pushing against what is here and now.
The relief comes in with surrender, softness, acceptance, & connection.
I see you
We see you
You are doing a wonderful wonderful job
Asking questions matters!
Connection & Compassion matter!
Your wisdom matters!
If today you are feeling wobbly I would like to hold your hand and reassure you that although you don’t have all the answers that no one else does either so sing your expertise with confidence and remember to smile and enjoy the ride.