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It feels, doesn’t it, that in fact the very freedom I’m speaking to you of here is either at odds with your child’s need for autonomy and freedom OR your freedom is squashed and stifled in order for you to lovingly meet their needs as I know you so wish to.
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Together we are being aware and choosing our place in this world deliberately where we are celebrating ourselves for the sensitive beings we are. The light bringers, the change makers, the soothers, the advocates, the open hearted and loving!
Lining ourselves up with all we truly are.
As we embrace the contrast that shows up in our lives and celebrate how that helps us see so clearly what we DO want for us and for our children, we are laying down an important path ahead.
No one else can do this for us. This is our call to step up for our children, and for ourselves which is where all change truly happens.
It’s plain to see as a parent we just need someone to listen to us and our children, to take some time, and to work with us to bring some relief.
However we don’t fit the ‘system’ and on time goes with the same...
‘You must come to us’
‘You must fit our schedule’
‘Your child must do as we say’
...approach, until everyone is too tired and in too much pain to know where to turn next.
As a society how has it come to such a lack of personal connection and compassion within the system we all call ‘care’?
However, the movement we truly want, the relief, the deep breath out, comes from a very different space.
It comes from a heart space that we can’t connect with when we are pushing against what is here and now.
The relief comes in with surrender, softness, acceptance, & connection.
When we finally draw that line, we are sometimes perceived as angry, defensive, closed off, not coping etc, and we need our friends who understand (or at least know how hard it can be) to hold us a little deeper and more tenderly as we rebirth ourselves - not tougher - but more real, more open hearted and more aligned with our truth than ever before.