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It feels, doesn’t it, that in fact the very freedom I’m speaking to you of here is either at odds with your child’s need for autonomy and freedom OR your freedom is squashed and stifled in order for you to lovingly meet their needs as I know you so wish to.
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Together we are being aware and choosing our place in this world deliberately where we are celebrating ourselves for the sensitive beings we are. The light bringers, the change makers, the soothers, the advocates, the open hearted and loving!
Lining ourselves up with all we truly are.
As we embrace the contrast that shows up in our lives and celebrate how that helps us see so clearly what we DO want for us and for our children, we are laying down an important path ahead.
No one else can do this for us. This is our call to step up for our children, and for ourselves which is where all change truly happens.
Trust me, we put waaay to much pressure on ourselves!
We don’t need anymore Thank-You!
We come across goldmines like Facebook groups with other PDA parents in, and ‘The PDA Society’ website and we start to realise we are not alone and there is no blame here! Phew!
That’s a massive relief and we set about finding out all the best ways to finally give our child the best of support and we, as advised by the experts, make adjustments to their environment. We see massive changes and all seems to finally be coming together. We start to see the light shine through.
However, the movement we truly want, the relief, the deep breath out, comes from a very different space.
It comes from a heart space that we can’t connect with when we are pushing against what is here and now.
The relief comes in with surrender, softness, acceptance, & connection.
I see you
We see you
You are doing a wonderful wonderful job
Asking questions matters!
Connection & Compassion matter!
Your wisdom matters!
If today you are feeling wobbly I would like to hold your hand and reassure you that although you don’t have all the answers that no one else does either so sing your expertise with confidence and remember to smile and enjoy the ride.
When we finally draw that line, we are sometimes perceived as angry, defensive, closed off, not coping etc, and we need our friends who understand (or at least know how hard it can be) to hold us a little deeper and more tenderly as we rebirth ourselves - not tougher - but more real, more open hearted and more aligned with our truth than ever before.