PDA Parents

Meditation for Parents

Before I turn you right off saying I’m going to talk about meditation, can I please remind you I want only to help you tune into your own power, knowing, and well-being as a parent AND as a parent to a child with PDA myself I’m all about practical and easy to pick up ways of getting there!

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So what is meditation?

You’ll find lots of answers to this. I see as a great way to recharge and tune in!

Tune into what?

If you have a belief in a Higher Power, an Inner Guide, a God, or Mother Earth herself then that’s a good start. 

It’s an opportunity to listen and let go of your thoughts and even your questions for a while.

You can switch over to incoming or receiving mode for a while instead of transmitting all the time. Ahhhhhhh

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If you don’t have such a belief in something ‘more’ than you then I’d describe it as a chance to get out of your mind and all those chattering thoughts and allow messages to come through from your heart centre & the emotional centre in your belly. 

It’s also a change to pick up on input that is always around you but you may not be paying conscious attention to.

For example, we know a dog can hear sounds that a human ear can’t. It’s not magic or strange just because we are not always aware of them ourselves.

The sounds are there all the time,  it’s just that we perceive a more narrow range. 

Likewise our animal friends trust their other sense and intuition better than we do. Meditation helps us sharpen these up giving us a real advantage when it comes to parenting!

The mind can go in a thousand directions, but on this beautiful path, I walk in peace. With each step, the wind blows. With each step, a flower blooms.

Thich Nhat Hanh

How do I meditate?

It’s really very simple. You can sit or lie down. Just be comfortable but preferably not so you fall straight asleep each time. It may sometimes happen, but you’ll get more benefit if you can be relaxed but awake. 

Ideally you’d set a timer for 15-20 mins a day and give yourself time where you don’t expect (as much as possible) to be interrupted. If 2 or 5 mins is all you have right now then commit to that.

You’ll need a way to focus your mind that will help your thoughts to settle down.

I prefer ways that I can always rely on such a my breathe, or finding a simple sound in a room. Our essential oil cool mist machine makes a simple consistent noise, or our bathroom fan is good too so I take advantage of those.

YouTube has lots of sounds for meditation you can select from, or there are lovely apps like ‘Calm’ and many more. 

There are many ways to focus your attention such as watching a candle, crystal, or using a hand mudra for example if you prefer-  but choose it because you prefer it not because any way is better, and don’t make it unnecessarily complicated then not get to do it!

The aim is to give your mind something to focus on to allow your thoughts to quieten, so whatever works best for you. 

I like to use my breathe because I generally take that wherever I go 😉 Using an irregular count helps the mind stay focused so I count 5 on the way in and then a slow 3 on the outbreath. 

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Meditation has astounding measurable benefits on mental and physical health. It’s very simple to understand and yet people are put off as it seems to woowoo or because they don’t understand the point of it. 

Mostly, I find people just feel it’s really too hard to let go of their thoughts.

Well it is hard, and that’s normal! It’s great to have an active aware mind but it needs to rest and listen too.

We remember to recharge our phones but not our busy brains. 

People are also very busy! It’s hard to believe that taking time to meditate will help with anything when the day feels so crowded already, I know. But try it for 5 days and you’ll find things are working out with more ease and flow in your day beacause you take that time.

You’ll likely find after you start meditating that your intuition sharpens up and you get great ideas, inner nudges, and feelings about people and things. 

If you find thoughts keep popping in your head when your meditating then don’t worry or give up. It’s entirely normal and you can just let the thought go with your outbreath and bring your attention back to your breathing.  

If you want to conquer the anxiety of life, live in the moment, live in the breath. Amit Ray

You deserve to have this in your life! Lindsay x

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