• “What you resist, persists”

C Jung

But what DOES resistance really mean???

Pathological DemandAvoidance

Peace With PDA

Resistance is more a journey of your heart than of your head. 

When we are experiencing resistance it means our thoughts, beliefs, or how we are acting – is in opposition to our truest desires.

It’s like an argument inside us that says…

”I want this”


I believe or see THAT!

This tension causes a push – pull feeling inside that we stay stuck right in the middle of. 

Often, it’s entirely unconscious, but our emotions give us wonderful feedback that we are holding ourselves in that place of resistance.

When we welcome what life brings us, we don’t expend energy fretting and worrying needlessly!

We ‘let it go, let it go’

and surrender

willingly, to what is

and allow life to just be! 

This is acceptance!!!

Emotional Freedom Techniques

We talk about ‘acceptance’ a lot in our community. 

A more holistic way of viewing acceptance is acceptance of your child/ren, and of Autism/PDA, but also of ALL the ripple effects that having that gift in your life has – such as what it means for your life own life now.

What if everything was working out perfectly?

What if all the contrast and challenges in your life were all there to help you?

If EFT we talk about ‘making friends with our problem’

When we apply EFT to an issue we see clear signs of releasing resistance.

Crying is one sign (we probably know well) of a significant release, but also yawning, sneezes & sighs are common gentle signs of release.  

“To offer no resistance to life is to be in a state of grace, ease, and lightness.

This state is then no longer dependent upon things being in a certain way, good or bad.

It seems almost paradoxical, yet when your inner dependency on form is gone, the general conditions of your life, the outer forms, tend to improve greatly.

Things, people, or conditions that you thought you needed for your happiness now come to you with no struggle or effort on your part, and you are free to enjoy and appreciate them – while they last.

All those things, of course, will still pass away, cycles will come and go, but with dependency gone, there is no fear of loss anymore. Life flows with ease.”

Eckhart Tolle

Pathological Demand Avoidance

Love & Acceptance

If you are wondering where you have resistance showing up on your parenting journey you can simply ask yourself…

  1. ‘What is my current family situation’
  2. ‘Is that OK just for today?’ 

Just see what comes up for you?

What would you have to release to allow you to be fully in this moment? – a worry, an image you hold of yourself, a friendship, a need to be right, an angry thought?

Don’t judge yourself or try to change it for now just notice.

What IF

– you viewed where you stood right now as the perfect platform from which to create something wonderful?

This beautiful life you are living is certain to be full of contrast butte get to choose how we view that contrast and how we use it. 

“Peace is an entirely internal state of being. Peace happens when we are fully in the moment. Nothing and no one and no place or circumstance outside ourself can give us peace. Only we, ourselves, can choose to pursue it.”

Nick Ortner

What if you made a commitment to just accepting how things are right now and let go of trying to hold on or create a change?

Imagine the space and energy that could open up for you right now!

If you want to create change in your life, in your relationships, and in the world, you must focus all of your attention on what you want. DO NOT entertain what you do not want. The Law of Attraction is unbiased, and you will attract people and experiences based on the thoughts that you allow yourself to focus on most.” Brittnay C. Starks

Imagine a cork bobbing away on the surface of the ocean.

That’s you, that cork – a perfect floating cork following the stream of life and having an adventure on those waves. 

Now, imagine you’re pulled under the water. 

That’s you struggling, and trying to know all the answers, and feeling sad, and feeling not good enough, and feeling afraid of the future, and feeling angry at the teacher, and feeling unappreciated…

So YOU are holding that cork under the water.

That’s what your negative emotions are telling you. 

That’s what resistance is. 

Let it go, and float into peace…

Peace With PDA

Peace with PDA

Lindsay Guttridge @PeaceWithPDA