PDA Parent in a bind!

We want to protect our children, rightly so, from deficit thinking, from feeling they are a problem because to us they are perfect.  When we ask for support there seems to be a mindset that hears ‘Please change my child to make life easier’ and NO we just mean give us a hand! “Hey world...
  • My washing up needs doing and my child needs me to be with them all day so could you wash up?
  • My child needs some sensory toys to help them regulate them so could you help me pay for them?
  • My child can’t be safe in a car park but we need to go to the shop so could you drive us and drop us by the door or could you give us a disabled parking badge as they have an ‘invisible’ disability?
  • My child is really sick and needs to see a GP but is deeply anxious and unable to attend the surgery so could you please come to our home and come in calmly and gently to see them?
  • I need a shower and I need someone we know well to roleplay being a dog with my child for half an hour so they are comfortable for me to go. 
You know, actual real help that comes from kindness and understanding, and from relationship!
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The Undoing

However, the movement we truly want, the relief, the deep breath out, comes from a very different space. It comes from a heart space that we can’t connect with when we are pushing against what is here and now.  The relief comes in with surrender, softness, acceptance, & connection. 
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PDA Society

The Responsible Parent

I see you We see you You are doing a wonderful wonderful job Asking questions matters! Connection & Compassion matter! Autonomy matters! Your wisdom matters! If today you are feeling wobbly I would like to hold your hand and reassure you that although you don’t have all the answers that no one else does either so sing your expertise with confidence and remember to smile and enjoy the ride.
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The Break

“You need a break!” they say “I do” I say “You must be exhausted!” they say “I manage” I say “You should really take care of yourself” they say “I really do try” I say “Are you not willing to let any help in ? they say “I really am” I say!
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Free Support

When we finally draw that line, we are sometimes perceived as angry, defensive, closed off, not coping etc, and we need our friends who understand (or at least know how hard it can be) to hold us a little deeper and more tenderly as we rebirth ourselves - not tougher - but more real, more open hearted and more aligned with our truth than ever before.   #PDA #PathologicalDemandAvoidance
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BEing the parent I AM

I’m not flaky, disorganised, or inconsistent although I can appear that way to some because of the extreme flexibility I’ve chosen to give my child from my generous heart...as I see you doing also. I’m not over sensitive or fussy because I’m tuned into someone who depends on my emotional barometer to support them...as I see you doing also.
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PDA Parents

Meditation for PDA Parents

Before I turn you right off saying I’m going to talk about meditation can I please remind you I want only to help you tune into your own power, knowing, and well-being as a parent AND as a parent to a child with PDA myself I’m all about practical and easy to pick up ways to get there!
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Love PDA ‘Converstaions That Count!’

I pray for the day when PDA can be seen. When parents are not judged but supported and celebrated. Where we can say PDA and not have to explain what it is. Where humans can adapt to the needs of PDA people, that they just recognize, accept and know that we are all unique but we are also all from the same. For peace.
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Unconditional Love 💖

There are ways you cannot change your child even if you should wish to. There are ways teachers, family, and society cannot change your child even if they should wish to. This makes our amazing children our greatest teachers of UNCONDITIONAL LOVE!
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Trauma ‘Converstations That Count’

Lucy is an astounding Well Being Coach for parents, and could not before supportive or understanding of parents with PDA. Today she’s going to chat with us about trauma. Trauma in parents is a specialism for Lucy and something she recognises is regularly affecting parents of children with PDA.
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PDA Acceptance

By no longer draining your energy away by looking back and wondering where you’ve been, why you did that, what you could have done differently etc you can focus your energy back onto where you would like to go next. Acceptance is deep self care! Acceptance is resilience!
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Let it go Let it go

That’s you struggling, and trying to know all the answers, and feeling sad, and feeling not good enough, and feeling afraid of the future, and feeling angry at the teacher, and feeling unappreciated... So YOU are holding that cork under the water. That’s what your negative emotions are telling you. That’s what resistance is. Let it go, and float into peace... Peace With PDA  
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Space…The Final Frontier

When we are focused in the past or the future and locked in time we are constricted. Emotional Freedom Techniques can support you in letting go as your awareness turns to thoughts, beliefs, and physical sensations that pull you away from resting fully in this moment. 
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